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Laurieby Karen Michel Pavlick

My child is stuck in the body of an actor!

Act on speaking things into existence


QUESTIONS: All I can think and talk about is what isn’t working in my acting career. My friends are even tired of it. I feel like a broken record, but I really do love acting. I guess I need to change something, so I am reaching out?

ACTORS: One of the smallest members of our body holds our greatest power; our tongue!

This past week I was in San Diego filming and got the opportunity to visit some long lost friends. I forgot how much I have missed loving them! They are a great couple and as I was catching up with my girlfriend she shared a story that was painful to her and was looking for a solution. Nothing wrong with that, but what I noticed is this “story” seemed to overtake her mind and she repeated it over and over again.

So, I encouraged her to try something different. Instead of speaking out loud how this person wronged her, speak what good she’d like to see come from this situation. Not easy!

Our greatest struggle isn’t out there, it’s inside; it’s the smallest member of our body that holds our destiny or destroys it; our tongue.

This is Universal law, the more we speak what we don’t like, the more of what we don’t like comes into our lives. Unconsciously, we just accept it “as is” without wondering or questioning why we continue to attract unhealthy relationships, or are consistently struggling to pay rent each month or are miserable in an occupation we thought we loved?

As actors, we are good at self-sabotage, without even knowing it. We judge our auditions; say horrible things about who we are. We wouldn’t talk to our worse enemy the way we talk to ourselves in that car on the way home after an audition!

“I’ll never make it, I was awful. I don’t know why I couldn’t even shed a tear in that room? I cried at home? See, I can cry, I am crying right now. I suck at being an actress! Maybe it was the pimple I got this morning? I need to lose weight; I am so fat.  Maybe it’s my hair color, my age? Oh, and that reader was horrible! How was I supposed to act with what she was giving me? Absolutely nothing!” 

And on and on goes our tongue…self-destructing our destiny!

To stop the tongue is not as easy as it may seem. And if it’s not our tongue, it’s our mind, silently destroying us! It’s a battle we can win! I promise, but it takes practice, practice, practice!


A few weeks ago, I was writing and was wondering when my next acting job would come in and was about to call a friend whom I knew would listen to my “sad tale,” as well as add fuel to the fire (which in the long run would only make me more hot and bothered) but instead, I chose to speak out loud, “Thank you God for the job that is coming my way. I know you always take care of me and never forsake me.”

It was like I had a direct line to God! Because within minutes my manager text asking if I was available for a job, which I ended up booking.

When you speak out loud, you must believe, let it go and trust, because the moment doubt enters, your phone call to God gets disconnected!

That little tongue of ours builds or destroys relationships. It brings good or bad into our lives, it talks us into or out of our destiny. It holds so much power. You are where you are based on what you speak into existence. Take a moment and look around. Do you like what you’ve created thus far? If not, then hold your tongue until you can speak only that which is good into the world.

If you don’t’ like what’s been going on with your career, stop talking about it over and over again and start speaking into existence what you would like to experience over and over again.

Just for the record…you won’t feel broken!


What we don’t feed…dies.


One evening an old Cherokee

Told his grandson about a battle

That goes on inside people.

He said, “My son,

The battle is between two “wolves.”

Inside us all,

One is Evil.

It is anger, envy, sorrow,

Regret, greed, arrogance,

Self-pity, guilt, resentment,

Inferiority, lies, false

Pride, superiority and ego.

The other is Good.

It is joy, peace, love, hope,

Serenity, humility, kindness,

Benevolence, empathy,

Generosity, truth, compassion

And faith.”

 The grandson thought about

It for a minute and then asked

His grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied,

“The one you feed.”

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