Feed your head
What I’m taking in regularly right now, and how to find your own reliable sources of information.
If you’ve read this actor’s “marketing” column even sporadically, it would be hard to miss that I read/listen/watch widely, sharing the best of it all sparingly. I believe this is not only is this integral to my artistic and personal growth, but that it is the easiest and most fun way to “market” oneself (remembering that marketing may not mean what you think it does).
This month, taking a page from the teach-an-actor-to-fish school of training and development, I thought that rather than simply share what I’m reading (and watching, and listening to) right now, I’d share the rationale behind it as well. Because even if you and I aren’t interested in the exact same things, you doubtless have your own dreams and aspirations that need feeding.
I’d heard about Tibetan Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön literally decades ago from a more-evolved friend. I first tried dipping into an audio book, but her voice didn’t work for me. Finally, after several more mentions over the years from a number of trusted sources, including this fabulous podcast (more on him in a bit), I came face to face—literally, eye-level—with a used copy of When Things Fall Apart in my favorite thrift store. For a dollar—and no stooping!—it felt silly to resist. I bought/read/loved it, repeated this with another of her books, and then, after a little strategic googling, signed up for the newsletter.
Main takeaway on getting to Pema:
- Multiple hits from numerous trusted sources over time generally yields gold. Even if I hadn’t come across the book, I might well have signed up for the newsletter. They are low-cost ways from a time/energy/money perspective of sampling an author or subject: i.e., it’s as easy to unsubscribe as it is to subscribe.
- Obsession gets a bad rap! If you can use it to tease out the threads of what interests you, you can not only enlighten yourself, but release yourself: listening to person after person share how Making It didn’t make them happy at their core leads to priceless gifts.
- You only have two eyeballs and they are chained to the space-time continuum. Don’t pay for stuff you can’t use; buy a la carte!
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Book of the Month:
Whether you’re repeating destructive patterns in your relationships with work, food, people, money, love, or any other substances, the things you are afraid to look at own you, plain and simple. Lost and Found: One Woman’s Story of Losing Her Money and Finding Her Life looks at the parallels between dysfunction that shows up in eating and spending—or, on the flip side, starving and hoarding—and shines a big, bright light on what’s really going on when we go overboard, and how to start finding our way back to balance and health. It’s written by popular author and workshop leader Geneen Roth, who lost her life savings to financial scoundrel Bernie Madoff, and then, after discovering how her unprocessed issues with food had simply resurfaced in her relationship with money, turned her life around. Probably my favorite book I’ve read on money dysfunction, and brother, I have read ’em all.
Colleen Wainwright is a writer–speaker–performer who started calling herself “the communicatrix” when she hit three hyphens. She spent a decade writing commercials and another decade acting in them for cash money. Today, she spends most of her time helping people learn how to promote themselves naturally, not needily.